I say, “Why you can’t lose weight”, but what I really mean is, “Why you can’t un-fat yourself”. This is not directed at the skinny-fat stick chicks still adhering to a diet of low fat garbage whose favorite hobby is vomiting. This is directed at the fat fucks.
How do you know if you are a fat fuck? Oh, you know if you are. Don’t lie to yourself, if you are one, you know. I was, and I damn sure knew it.
At the time, I was 306 lbs which at 5’9″ is land whale territory. I have been there, and I know how easy it is to dwell in denial. Don’t do it, because it’s one of the results of the reason you can’t lose weight.
Why You Can’t Lose Weight
Why can’t you lose weight? Simple answer.
You give up.
Every single reason you can’t lose weight can (and will) be traced back to this one reason. This is the crux of the issue.
Even if you think you have some extenuating circumstances, it ultimately boils down to this reason. I can already hear the furrowing of brows and the excuses boiling up from your throat. They’re bullshit, and you know it.
Your symptoms do not cause your inability to lose weight. Your refusal to not give up has, over time, created your symptoms. And guess what, kids…the longer you wait and the more you give up, the harder it is to turn it around.
Here’s a short list of common excuses, and why they’re all traced back to giving up.
- I’m not that fat!
- I like myself the way I am!
- Weight loss is hard!
- I don’t like being hungry!
- I don’t know what to eat!
- Exercise is boring/hard!
- But my doctor says…
- But what about (example outlier)?
And in Business and Bullets fashion, I’m going to tear these excuses apart. I’m tearing them apart from personal experience. At one point or another, I had every one of these excuses on my lips.
They’re fucking killing you.
I don’t want that for you, so I’m going to eviscerate your excuses. You’re welcome, friend.
#1 – I’m not that fat!
Bullshit. I don’t care if you’re 160 lbs or 260 lbs, or anywhere in between.
If you look like Gumby, you’re fat. You should look less like a claymation figure and more like an animal composed of muscle tissue. If you have no definition, you’re a fat fuck. Doesn’t matter what you weigh.
If you’re a fat fuck, you don’t even know what a skinny fuck looks like. A skinny fuck has defined abs but very low muscle mass. If you’re fat, your perception of a skinny guy is actually a skinny fat guy. If you’re a skinny fat guy, your perception of an average guy is a skinny fat guy.
Note the usage of the word Guy. You’re not much of a man if you’re skinny fat, and you’re useless as a man if you’re a fat fuck. Fat but Built men can get by, and most of them coast through their life in this complacency. All three groups are giving up, in various shades of denial, and saying “I’m not that fat!”
Yes, you are.
If you want some hard numbers:
You’re skinny if you don’t have 10+lbs more muscle than your frame would naturally have carried in a modern sedentary lifestyle.
You’re fat if you have more than 13% body fat. Period. There is no healthy man on this earth that can’t maintain 13% body fat, and many will be able to maintain less.
Stop fucking giving up and achieve these two goals. They don’t take long unless you’ve been lying to yourself for too long, but that just means you need it even more.
#2 – I like myself the way I am!
Bullshit. No you don’t. This is as much denial as #1, and I’m not sure which one is worse. They’re both pretty bad.
If you need proof that you don’t like yourself the way you are, look at the archetypes of men you respect or admire.
If you’ve never had a positive male figure in your life, then look at the fiction you consume. Fiction is entertainment, and entertainment is simply living vicariously.
That means that what they are doing is more interesting than what you are doing, and you’re enjoying their story from their perspective.
Would you enjoy your super hero movie bullshit if the hero was a tub of lard? No, and you wouldn’t find any of the fight scenes or romance scenes believable in the slightest.
Do you know why that is?
Your body and mind know instinctively that this “hero” isn’t capable of fighting, isn’t deserving of the love story, and ultimately isn’t interesting as a source of entertainment. You might even find yourself rooting for the villain, because that type of story is the only kind that would cast such a loser “hero”.
Guess what else, Jack? Those thoughts you have about that hero are the thoughts you have about yourself. It’s a toxic self hate, one you may not even be aware of.
It is a combination of hormonal imbalances (from being a fat fuck) and the lack of an interesting life (from being a fat fuck) and the lack of meaningful relationships (from being a fat fuck). Because everyone else has the same instinctive reaction to you that you have to that “hero”.
The saddest part of all of this is that it is a VERY fixable problem. A fixable problem that you make unfixable by giving up and lying to yourself that you “like yourself the way you are”.
#3 – I can’t lose weight because it’s hard!
No, it isn’t. This is a child’s excuse. Weight loss, and fat loss, are not hard. They’re tedious.
It is brain numbing and monotonous to do the same thing every day, for weeks and weeks at a time, with a payoff far off in the future.
But it isn’t hard.
This is another denial used as an excuse to give up. If you say it’s too hard, you suffer from the problem of all denial…making it too hard.
If weight loss is truly hard for you, then you should get your blood work done (see #7). Say that checks out, and it’s still hard, you may have false expectations (see #4 & #6). If those aren’t your problem, then you simply don’t understand how your body uses food (see #5).
Regardless of your problem, regardless of why weight loss is hard for you, ask yourself this simple question:
Why should you expect it to be easy?
I’m sure it didn’t take you days, or weeks, or maybe even one year to get ridiculously fat. No, if you’re anything like me, it probably took several years. You had to make bad decisions day in, day out, for years and years to do this to yourself. I did it too.
So, why should you expect it to take less time to get yourself out of this mess than it took you to get into it?
The short answer is, of course, that you shouldn’t. You should set a realistic time frame for fixing yourself. If you don’t, you’ll drive yourself crazy and end up giving up again.
The good news is that your body doesn’t want to be reminiscent of a walrus. You’ll likely lose it faster than you gained it, as long as you stop giving up and stop lying to yourself. Don’t sell yourself short, you’re capable of more than you realize.
#4 – I can’t lose weight because I don’t like being hungry!
Tough titties there, Tommy. Hungry means you’re going to lose mass if you don’t eat, which is exactly what you want.
Hunger is your friend. Hunger means its working. And nobody likes being hungry.
If you can’t tolerate being hungry, then what do you end up doing? You give up. And then you binge on pizza and beer until you can’t roll off the couch to go to bed.
There is no quick and easy fix to being hungry. You simple be hungry. This requires discipline.
See, when you’re hungry, your basic survival instincts kick in. Your body thinks you’re dying. It does this to motivate you to get off your ass, get out of the cave, and go kill something with a sharp stick for dinner.
Our basic little monkey brains don’t realize we have never had easier access to food than we have today. It doesn’t need to make hunger suck as much as it does. Once again, tough titties there, Tommy.
Hunger sucks, that’s just how it is. Learn to deal with it. If you can’t, accept that you are purchasing comfort with time. You are choosing comfort now over CONTINUING TO EXIST.
Nobody can make the choice for you, but in my opinion it’s better to not give up. Comfort now V. Life is a pretty easy decision to make. And what’s more, it’s Comfort now V. Dying with dignity.
I will not spend my twilight years as a 44 year old man who has to have his poor family wash the sweat and filth from his back fat as he lays helplessly on a mattress like a jellyfish. No amount of comfort today is worth that tomorrow.
#5 – I can’t lose weight because I don’t know what to eat!
This is an especially insidious excuse. It kills you twice.
The first way it kills you is by implying that there is a type of food to eat that will make all your problems disappear. This is magical thinking, something someone truly ignorant of their body believes. There is no magic pill, friend.
Humans are omnivores. We developed to eat what was available. There is no hard and fast “eat this and unfat yourself”. The first answer to “I don’t know what to eat!” is that no one knows what you should eat.
Luckily for you, you have a built in feedback system that gives you feedback on your food choices. It’s called “taking a shit” around here, but they call it “digestion” at the doctor’s office.
The everyman’s answer to “What should I eat?” is to eat food, food that you believe will give you energy, and then monitor your digestion. If you hear the music below in your mind when you’re on the toilet, you chose poorly.
The second way “I don’t know what to eat!” kills you is by putting the focus on eating.
You do not have a problem with eating if you’re fat. You have a problem with NOT eating.
Weight loss happens when you eat less food. Focusing on eating is exactly what got you fat in the first place.
You don’t have to focus on eating, because being hungry all the time will do that for you. What focusing on eating will do for you is drive you crazy, cause you to proclaim “I don’t like being hungry!” and give up.
The only hard and fast rule I can think of is abstaining from sugar. Beyond that, eat food that digests well for you and don’t eat too much of it. Don’t make simple things complicated, that’s how you got into this mess in the first place.
#6 – I can’t lose weight because exercise is Boring/Hard!
If weights are boring for you, then you’re lifting bitch weight with bitch intensity because you’re too weak to do either properly. Stop exercising and start training to turn this around.
If cardio is boring for you, then you’re going about it in a boring way. Get off the treadmill or whatever else you’re doing indoors and go outside. Take up hiking or people watching and just fucking walk. Walking is one of the fundamental features of being a human, so don’t suck at it.
If you’re shocked that either of these activities are hard for you, ask yourself why that is.
Exercising is hard because you suck at it. You suck at it because you don’t do it. You don’t do it because you’re too fat to comfortably tie your shoes. And how did you get too fat to comfortably tie your shoes? Because you don’t exercise because you suck at it.
In other words, you gave up. You gave up because it wasn’t easy. Refer to #3 above…Why do you think it should be easy?
Break the cycle by refusing to give up…or accept atrophy and accelerated aging. It really is that simple.
#7 – But my doctor says I can’t lose weight because…
Before you give weight to what your doctor says, first analyze his health. What does he look like? Is he a mass of sagging skin and bone with no retained muscle mass to speak of? Is he a bumbling penguin-esque tube of lard?
If he’s not the epitome of health (relative to his age), then fuck his opinion. The truth is, if he knew what to do then he would be taking his own advice. The only reason he might not be is if he gave up like you did so many times before.
Now ask yourself this: if his advice was such that he could even follow it, how can you expect yourself to? This is a simple, subconsious realization you will have already made. Failure is included in the plan.
Fat fuck doctor advises fat fuck patient, both remain fat fucks and discuss things that will never work because both always give up. This trend continues until one of them dies.
If your doctor is unhealthy, fuck his opinion. Then go find yourself a healthy doctor who gives a damn about health in more than a financial capacity. You’re going to need a good doctor, and I’m speaking from experience here.
Being very fat for a very long time will completely ruin your hormone health. You’re going to need a good doctor, the best you can find, to help you deal with the fallout of your poor choices. It may be a lifelong relationship, so DO NOT settle for a sub-par doctor.
Choosing between paying someone to facilitate your failure and help you give up, or someone who will help you reach optimal health…this is not a hard choice to make.
8. But What about (example outlier)?
Everyone always has an example outlier who is the exception that proves the rule. They seek to emulate this person who (in their eyes) has the best of both worlds.
You’re not them. If you were, you wouldn’t be having any problems. You wouldn’t have read this far into this post.
Banish the notion from your mind that what works for someone else will work for you. Health is highly individual, and you should have already come to that conclusion after the first 7 points.
This excuse usually comes about in the following way:
- Be fat
- See this guy who eats pizza all day but stays fit FROM THIS ONE WEIRD TRICK
- You try his ONE WEIRD TRICK
- Surprise Surprise, it doesn’t work for you
- You give up
Why didn’t his ONE WEIRD TRICK work for you? Because he is an outlier (or a faker) and what works for him (or appears to) doesn’t work for anybody else. Guess what? You can’t be him.
You can’t be anybody but you. Suck it up, buttercup. This is by far the weakest excuse to give up out of the bunch.
Your excuses are killing you. You’re giving up on life.
You can’t lose weight because you’re giving up. You’re giving up to purchase comfort today with tomorrow’s time. That means that you are committing slow suicide to stay comfortable today, and not a single one of your excuses are validated.
I know what it is like to be a person who does this. It is a lackluster life of failure and complacency.
Don’t damn yourself to that kind of life. Demand more from yourself. Just remember, it isn’t difficult.
You just can’t give up.
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