You ever heard Sinatra’s “Come Fly With Me”?
Man, what a catchy tune. Gets me to thinking about what I’ve been up to.
For starters, I’m moving.
This is the last time I’m going to get to move. The way I am, I usually can’t go more than 5 years in one place without going nuts. But that doesn’t jive with my desire to be a Dad.
Simply put, if I move again in 5 years, I won’t just be uprooting my life. I’ll be uprooting my kids lives. They’ll have their own little social lives and sense of normal by then. Today, they’re too young to really care.
I’m taking advantage by going fast and going far. I’ll be doing everything I can to make that happen.
I’m throwing away almost everything I own.
That’s part of the ritual of moving for me. The actual moving is actually fairly stress free – I will move with about as much crap as most people go on vacation with. Furniture not included, obviously, but I don’t have any more furniture than what is necessary.
Its cathartic to throw away all your useless crap. It reminds you that you actually need very little. That brings me to my next point.
I’ve cut my expenses to below $20k per year.
That’s not just my expenses, that’s expenses for my entire family. Raising kids is expensive as hell. Cutting the costs to below $20k is a huge help on a single income family.
Spending less money means needing less money. Needing less money means not having to make as much money. Not having to make as much money means being able to save more time. Being able to save more time means being able to spend more time with my kids while they’re still kids.
What’s more, if you’re making more money and spending less money, you get the best of both worlds.
In about a year, I’ll have paid off the only personal debt I’ve ever had. That’ll knock my personal spending down another couple thousand a year. The money saved will be used to add as many automated revenue streams as possible over the coming years.
The name of the game is Minimalism today, Maximalism tomorrow.
I don’t want to be 40 and “just okay”. If I keep expenses low as long as possible, I can have multiple war chests that give me options down the road.
The idea isn’t “just save your money”. The idea is:
- Minimize expenses
- Add streams of revenue
- Seek part time work for full time pay, as many times over as possible, automated as soon as possible
- Save as much as possible
- Split savings into investments and war chests
- Grow the family business
The idea is to build something. Kids want to spend time with Dad. Kids also need opportunity later on down the road.
That means spending time with them while simultaneously creating opportunities for their future selves.
Similar to the idea behind the 80/20 rule, you want to make the most efficient plays. You want to do the things that will give you the best results. That means you can’t just make moves and hope things work out.
You should be leveraging the OODA Loop and looking at the chain of events following each potential move before you make them. Most importantly, you should not waste your time.
So I wasted time.
What? Yeah. I wasted time. Why? Simple. To get it out of my system.
Nothing was off limits the past month. Nothing.
If I wanted to eat shit, I’d eat shit. If I wanted to get stinking drunk after the kiddos were asleep, I’d get stinking drunk. That didn’t give me an excuse to not work the next day, though. I’ve been working 7 days a week for years.
I still worked out, but they were shit workouts in that I only did the exercises I enjoy. I didn’t do anything I actually needed to do. No real progress was made.
I topped it off last night by drinking enough to actually vomit, which hasn’t happened to me in a very long time. I was a hard core drunk back in the day and I never threw up. Last night I did.
You know what these periods of hedonism teach you?
Living like a loser isn’t fun.
It just plain sucks, actually.
What’s a good motivator to lose weight? Get fat and look in a mirror.
What’s a good motivator to stop drinking? Puke your fucking guts out after getting hammered.
What’s a good motivator to do anything? Put the consequence of not doing it at the forefront of your mind.
Having a month of zero fucks given makes you say, “Man, I can’t wait to get back on it.” There’s a trick to it, though.
YOU ACTUALLY HAVE TO GET BACK ON IT. I wouldn’t recommend you do this if you’ve got zero discipline, because if you’ve got zero discipline you’ll just keep living like a loser.
If you’re like me, you’ll be ready to come fly away.
I’ve had my “fun”. I got all the womanizing out of my system years ago, and this is the same idea as that.
What idea is that? Don’t do things that ain’t fun.
I’m throwing away more crap than I’m keeping because I’m sick of having too much stuff. I’m eating better because I’m sick of eating junk. And I’d be just fine with never seeing another bottle of booze.
The only time you actually do things is when you actually want to do those things.
It takes zero motivation to do things you actually want to do. Motivation is for people who are trying to do things they hate, or stop doing things they love. Doing what you actually want to do is the easiest thing in the world.
I’m going to fly away and spend a couple years doing the easiest thing in the world.