“Stop pissing away your day complaining about things which are outside of your control.”
This quote is from a post at Jack Murphy Live, click here to read the full post.
Jack’s post really resonates with me. As I said in a recent post, I have a lot of shit on my plate right now. So does anyone else who is doing what I’m doing, despite the fact that what I’m doing is a bad idea.
Why am I doing the whole family man thing? Easy answer. Because I want to, and I’m not going to die without doing what I really want to do. No matter how bad of an idea it is.
There are a couple of things that come with this, though. I’ve got to handle myself and my family and my business right now, so I can’t focus on other things. Things like:
- Meet-ups with extremely interesting individuals I’d otherwise want to meet.
- Long discussions on social media about anything that doesn’t address my current situation.
- Pity parties about how difficult things are for men today.
- Bitch fests on how Feminism is Cancer.
- Complaints about [Your Race Here] v. [Race You Don’t Like Here]
- Whining about [Your Religion Here] v. [Religion You Don’t Like Here]
When you strip things down to the bare bones, the reason why is truly very simple.
Ignore Extraneous Things Until They Become Relevant Things
I’ve always subscribed to the thought that your circle of influence radiates outward. It starts with YOU.
First on my to-do list was attaining financial freedom. This took several years, and was very difficult to do as a single income household of 3 people. One of whom was my newborn daughter.
Now I’m tending to the actual raising of my children and the systems I need in place to support them. Sure, I could neglect all my responsibilities and live off the state like all the other parasites, but I’d rather put a bullet in my brain than live as a leech.
The name of the game for me, for now, is as follows.
- Fix ME. Improve my health and my finances.
- Take care of the kiddos.
- Make sure 40 year old Lloyd is better off than 20 year old Lloyd was.
That is it. That’s all. And that’s enough!
If I hope to have anywhere near the impact I’m capable of in my lifetime I have to do these things before anything else.
I made the job monumentally harder and longer by wanting to be a Dad in the world we live in. I ran the numbers, I weighed my options, and made the selfish decision to do what I wanted before I died.
If you want to believe that you can do what you want WITHOUT doing the work it requires, you don’t belong here at Business and Bullets. I’ll end on another quote from Jack:
“If you want to be like me one day: a physically and mentally strong leader, a family man, an entrepreneur, a writer and a thinker – then start with the basics – that’s where we all began, even me.“
You can’t do a damn thing if you don’t do the work first. Like it or not, that’s where I am. The American Cult of Youth be damned, you don’t have any impact until you have experience.
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