If you’ve ever seen one of the old westerns, you know its pretty easy to spot the good guy. He’s the guy in the white hat.
The Guy In The White Hat
He’s probably got a clean shave, he’s probably clean and presentable, he’s definitely in good shape.
This isn’t film noir, so you’re probably not going to see him drinking it up with the boys in the saloon or sleeping with another man’s wife like Sam Spade in The Maltese Falcon.
He’s probably not a pale southerner of Irish stock with a round face. He’s probably a tall, tan, slow talking man with a strong jaw and a square face and a strong sense of justice.
Never you mind that this fictional character wouldn’t have lasted 10 seconds in the real old west. He’s a Hollywood invention, and he’s one that the rest of the world associates with the good old USA.
When you see that character, it stirs something inside you. You know he’s going to do the right thing, the right way, at the right time. You know he’s gonna draw last.
The Real Old West
When you draw last in the real world, you don’t draw at all. You’re dead as a door nail.
The real old west was mainly a bunch of drunk kids in their twenties ambushing, robbing, and killing each other. Whoring, gambling, drinking, and killing were the order of the day.
Sheriff White Hat would’ve probably had his throat slit because he couldn’t compete.
The real personalities of the old west were the men that did whatever it took to get what they wanted. Most of them died young. The ones that didn’t were usually killed off by younger versions of themselves, usually when they got complacent and gave up.
If you really want success, you’ll do whatever it takes. You won’t just do what you’re supposed to.
I’m not saying you’ll break the law. No, I’m not advocating that at all.
I’m saying that you will not abide by the plan you were presented while you were growing up.
That plan was shown to me in public school and by “wise” adults all my life, but my immediate family hadn’t gone that route and they didn’t force it on me. Instead, they taught me how the world actually operates.
I was one of the lucky ones. Maybe you weren’t so lucky. If you weren’t, I’ve got you covered.
Here’s my 4 step program to break free from the shackles of a white hat life.
1. DO NOT THINK YOUR COLLEGE EDUCATION WILL TRANSLATE INTO A REWARDING CAREER
Your college education will translate into massive debt and probably won’t land you a job in your field.
In the 1960’s, skilled labor was cheap and plentiful and educated labor was rewarding and scarce. In the current age, the reverse is true. Skilled labor is expensive and scarce and educated labor is worthless.
This is simply supply and demand. Leverage this reality in your favor. Learn a skill, practice your craft, perfect your art, profit.
Instead of throwing your square academic cap into the air at graduation, you can throw your white hat in the trash right now.
2. DO NOT THINK YOU NEED TO BUY A HOUSE
After student loans, a mortgage is the next biggest scam you’re told to buy into.
Lock yourself down in one spot for 30 years. Marry some gal. Have some kids. Raise them under one roof for their entire upbringing.
Sounds great, right?
Some of it does, yeah. It depends on a lot of other factors that I’ll get to later. Except for that 30 years bit. Lets think about that some more.
30 years in the same house.
Your kids should be raised right, meaning raised to not be total losers, so you should be able to count on them being self sufficient by at least 20.
Some people wait up to ten years after marriage to have kids, so its no small wonder how they came up with the 30 year mortgage.
Lets assume, however, that you have kids ASAP because you bought into the good old American Dream. Assume your 2.5 kids are 2 years apart, and that means you get 8 years to be shackled to your house after they’re grown. Shackled with debt.
Unless you pay that house off early, its outlived its usefulness and is now merely your self imposed prison.
You could instead buy a cheap old home or rent a decent home until you can buy a home while Sheriff White Hat languishes in the pseudo-mansion that’s sucking him dry.
DO NOT THINK YOU NEED TO GET MARRIED
You should only GET married because you want to BE married. For most, this is a bad idea.
If you want to have sex, then go have sex. You don’t need to be married to have sex.
As a matter of fact, if you want to get married to the first girl you’ve ever managed to have sex with, then its definitely a bad idea to get married.
You don’t settle for the first woman that will lay in your bed, you actively CHOOSE your woman.
You do not need to be married. Getting married just because you “should” will not bring you success. Getting married just because you “should” will not bring you happiness.
You should only get married if you want to be a father, and if your vision for your life as a father involves a cohesive family unit. Mine does, so I am.
You aren’t me, though, and your vision might be different. Choosing the wrong woman to marry for the wrong reasons will probably leave you financially ruined and miserable.
Live a life of freedom, choice, and happiness while Sheriff White Hat is being nagged and cuckolded.
DO NOT THINK YOU NEED TO HAVE CHILDREN
Just like you should choose your woman, you should actively choose whether or not to have children. You should never try to have children just because “that’s what you’re supposed to do at this age”.
Anyone who tells you otherwise should be permanently shunned.
YOU SHOULD ONLY HAVE CHILDREN BECAUSE YOU WANT CHILDREN.
No “uh-oh babies”, no “social obligation” babies, no nothing.
You should only have children because you want to have that joy in your life and only when you are absolutely ready for it. You shouldn’t run the risk of waiting so long you or your woman are too old to have them, either.
Only you will know when you’ve reached that happy place where you’re emotionally and financially ready. You might be 20 or you might be 40.
I wouldn’t recommend younger or older than that, but it wouldn’t be the first time someone too young or too old started having kids.
Enjoy your solitude or enjoy your fatherhood and leave the white hat on the neighbor’s white picket fence. He’ll be needing it.
- DO NOT THINK YOUR COLLEGE EDUCATION WILL TRANSLATE INTO A REWARDING CAREER
- DON’T THINK YOU NEED TO BUY A HOUSE
- DO NOT THINK YOU NEED TO GET MARRIED
- DO NOT THINK YOU NEED TO HAVE CHILDREN
You might be saying, “Wait a minute, what gives you the right to tell me that?”
- I went to college, but I did it on my own terms and spent about $2,800 in three years.
- I live in my own home, and I don’t have to worry about the bank taking it away.
- I’ve been married for years, and I didn’t settle. I actively chose what I wanted in a woman.
- I’ve got two kids, I wanted two kids, I wanted to be a father, and I can afford to be a father.
EVERYTHING I EVER SAY EXCLUSIVELY COMES FROM BELIEF.
I believe in everything I say BECAUSE I HAVE EXPERIENCE TO BACK IT UP.
I’m never going to talk about what I think. That would be a waste of time.
I’m only going to talk about what I know.
Quit trying to be the guy in the white hat.
Stop trying to do everything the right way. Start doing everything your way.
If you don’t know what your way is yet, go live some life and find out.